Win TODAY – tomorrow never comes!!

“Tomorrow is only found in the calendar of fools.”
— Og Mandino

“Tomorrow” is magic. We put off starting that important project today, because we just know that it will go better with a fresh start tomorrow.

We just know that we’ll have more energy, motivation, will power and time tomorrow.

But just like any kind of magic, tomorrow is an illusion. Because it never comes. The next morning when you wake up, it’s today once more and if things aren’t exactly right you’ll start convincing yourself that tomorrow things will be better…and on and on it goes.

In today’s world, things rarely go exactly as planned. We’re always dealing with something that we didn’t expect or plan on. So start those projects today rather than waiting for the perfect “tomorrow” that never comes.

Preparation = Angst Killer

Angst –  a funny little word. Only its not funny at all. Whenever it happens to you, go ahead and get ready. Something awful is about to happen.

Webster defines angst as, “A feeling of deep anxiety or dread.”

Sometimes, you don’t have a choice. Angst will certainly show up. Hearing test results from a doctor … meeting with a team member that is no longer on the team … waiting for the ferris wheel while being laughed at by your kids because you are afraid of heights (worse than that is lying on the floor of the Ferris wheel because your kids like to rock it back and forth).

When these things happen, I try to remember that worry and dread never change anything.

However, sometimes angst shows up because I invited it into my world.

Those times, I believe that angst follows a lack of preparation and discipline on my part.

Conversely, I never worry over a test when I know all the answers going in. Marathons scare me when I know I have trained properly. Public speaking brings no fear when I prepare and I know my content inside & out. But try those scenarios with a lack of  preparation and angst will be there.

If you find yourself full of angst, ask yourself why. Maybe you are causing some of it yourself. Make disciplined preparation a high priority and angst will leave town.

Do you really know what other people expect from you?

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
— Bruce Lee

We all have expectations of other people in our lives. Unmet expectations can cause serious problems in our relationships. Maybe we would be better off without having any expectations in our lives but to do that, it will no doubt take a lot of time.

Today I want to share with you a tool that you can implement immediately.

Beginning today, try to find out what expectations people think you have of them. Sit down and simply ask them, “What do you think I expect out of you in our relationship?” Try it with your spouse or significant other. Their answers may stun you and maybe they are completely inaccurate of what it is you actually do expect out of them. This will give you the chance to clear those up.

On the other hand, you may think you know what other people expect of you, but I guarantee that you will be surprised at some of the answers you receive. It will transform your relationships. What about your spouse, your kids, and your friends. What do they expect from you? Don’t limit it to personal relationships. If you manage people, ask them what they think you expect of them. You’re going to be surprised by some of the answers.

Let me know how this turns out, I’d love to hear from you.