Mindset Matters

Have you ever heard the expression “if you think you CAN’T or if you think you CAN”, you’re correct?

You’d think it would be an either/or proposition, wouldn’t you?
How can 2 opposite viewpoints be correct at the same time?
I’ve had this situation in my life many times. If I’m faced with a task & believe that I can’t do it, I avoid trying to do it. I’m hamstrung with fear, I choose any of a number of distractions instead of the task at hand. In short, I procrastinate  – or if – I actually attempt a start, it usually fizzles out before the task is completed.
On the other hand, if I’m confident I can do whatever it is, I normally will attack the task enthusiastically. I can’t wait to get started with it & finish it. The idea of success will draw me into the task.
The difference between the 2 attitudes is mindset. Mindset will take you a long way toward either success or failure at anything. The initial belief is critical to the outcome.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to tell you that you just have to believe and then whatever it is magically happens. Our mindsets influence our behaviors, and it’s our action and behaviors that determine the outcomes.
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Just say, No – if that’s how you really feel.

I saw this today from Clint Hurdle, the field manager for the Pittsburgh Pirates. I have had a great deal of trouble with this in the past, so I thought I’d share it with you verbatim.
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For many people, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No.

No – simple to pronounce, hard to say. We’re afraid people won’t like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a “good” employee, child, parent, spouse, or Christian never says no.

The problem is, if we don’t learn to say no, we stop liking ourselves and the people we always try to please. We may even punish others out of resentment.

When do we say no? When no is what we really mean.

When we learn to say no, we stop lying. People can trust us, and we can trust ourselves. All sorts of good things happen when we start saying what we mean.

If we’re scared to say no, we can buy some time. We can take a break, rehearse the word, and go back and say no. We don’t have to offer long explanations for our decisions.

When we can say no, we can say yes to the good. Our no’s and our yes’s begin to be taken seriously. We gain control of ourselves. And we learn a secret: “No” isn’t really that hard to say.

Today, I will say no if that is what I mean.

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Great words to live by. Thanks, Clint.

It’s best to just let the anger pass.

Something might happen today that upsets you. Someone could be rude, your car might break down, one of your employees might mess something up despite your very detailed instructions. Your natural reaction may be to yell and get angry. It’s just instinctive.

But, although it’s “natural” doesn’t mean it’s a great idea. A great Roman, Marcus Aurelius, observed, “how much more harmful are the consequences of anger…than the circumstances that aroused them in us.”

Getting angry might make you feel better for a brief second, but will it actually solve the problem? Of course not. Arguing with a rude person only invites them to be rude for a longer period. Getting angry over car trouble doesn’t fix the car, but it will raise your blood pressure. Dressing down the employee who screwed up? Now they’ll either resent you or they’ll be more likely to mess up again in the future because they’re nervous and self-conscious and – maybe – embarrassed if others heard the exchange.

Anger only make things worse. Remember that today.

How can you be a good leader?

Quick, think for a moment about the worst boss you ever worked for.

Most people would say, their worst boss was much more preoccupied with themselves than on leading them. They likely were someone who didn’t support you, didn’t seek or value your ideas, and didn’t treat you with respect. They probably didn’t get the best work from you, either. Working for jerks doesn’t do much a person’s motivation and morale.

Having worked with many leaders over the years, I’m convinced that leaders who focus more on “the troops” have far greater success than those who focus on themselves. I’ve also seen this many times: the more self-absorbed a leader is, the more likely it is that he or she will experience a humbling failure.

The more successful leaders in the military or business are servant-leaders. Instead of treating “their troops” as resources who do work for them, leaders look to be a resource for them:

  • They collaborate with them to set goals.
  • They remove barriers to their performance.
  • They provide skill-stretching assignments and training opportunities.
  • They give them air cover when pressure comes down from above.

Leadership, in other words, is not about you; it’s about them.

The fastest way to great results is taking a genuine and active interest in helping others succeed. When you focus on using your leadership for the good of others, you take a genuine interest in getting to know their needs, goals, aspirations, and gifts.

And the whole organization is better off for it – the leader included!